What is one's true intent when they ask for another's opinion. Do they merely want to share their experience and dilemma but to be polite ask for an opinion that they really don't care to hear? Do people genuinely want another's advise to help them figure out the situation? Does the individual want someone else to make the difficult decision for them?
I don't really know why I'm asking these things. I pal of mine always asks for my opinion however she never sides with it or takes my advice, which I personally feel would have avoided a good amount of the drama and stress she puts herself through. Finally, tried of voicing an opinion that is rarely appreciated, when my friend asked for my advise I told her that I didn't want to voice it because there was no chance she'd listen anyway. Then she said something that got me thinking. "I ask for your opinion, and appreciate it, but in no way do I have to accept it. I ask for your two cents because it shows me a different perspective but I don't side with it alot of the time. It's valuable but in a different way than you see it. I see your opinion as the opposition so by asking you, I see how the other side thinks."
Its an odd concept to try and rap my mind around. It's difficult for me to accept that people won't do exactly what I suggest. The idea that people think and act differently. My way isn't the only or right way for other people. I don't know if you'd call me egocentric or something else however I'd like to work on it. I want to be ok voicing my opinion and having someone say, "thanks but that's not for me." I want to be able to state my view and leave it at that. Stop trying to convince and sell it to the person. Accept that people are intelligent people and that they will make their own decisions and their own mistakes. Let them pick their own path and don't berate them if had they followed your advise they could have avoided the problem. Thoughts. Thoughts.
Original Date: Aug. 5th, 2008 09:15 am
I don't really know why I'm asking these things. I pal of mine always asks for my opinion however she never sides with it or takes my advice, which I personally feel would have avoided a good amount of the drama and stress she puts herself through. Finally, tried of voicing an opinion that is rarely appreciated, when my friend asked for my advise I told her that I didn't want to voice it because there was no chance she'd listen anyway. Then she said something that got me thinking. "I ask for your opinion, and appreciate it, but in no way do I have to accept it. I ask for your two cents because it shows me a different perspective but I don't side with it alot of the time. It's valuable but in a different way than you see it. I see your opinion as the opposition so by asking you, I see how the other side thinks."
Its an odd concept to try and rap my mind around. It's difficult for me to accept that people won't do exactly what I suggest. The idea that people think and act differently. My way isn't the only or right way for other people. I don't know if you'd call me egocentric or something else however I'd like to work on it. I want to be ok voicing my opinion and having someone say, "thanks but that's not for me." I want to be able to state my view and leave it at that. Stop trying to convince and sell it to the person. Accept that people are intelligent people and that they will make their own decisions and their own mistakes. Let them pick their own path and don't berate them if had they followed your advise they could have avoided the problem. Thoughts. Thoughts.
Original Date: Aug. 5th, 2008 09:15 am
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